tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post8348748829083173531..comments2023-10-09T01:34:24.148-07:00Comments on i.ronhic: gender equalityJeremy Moorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06604541238297784455noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post-71016166152932403142011-11-09T17:48:29.115-08:002011-11-09T17:48:29.115-08:00I meant, I think that they limit us from being the...I meant, I think that they limit us from being the beautiful and unique people we are.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16595096866339139973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post-12381463696525232612011-11-09T17:45:39.123-08:002011-11-09T17:45:39.123-08:00Jeremy,
Thank you for inviting me to read your po...Jeremy,<br /><br />Thank you for inviting me to read your post--I think you make a great point with arguing that we should respect women who choose to stay at home. Creating gender equality for women definitely means respecting a woman's decisions with what she chooses to do with her life. People who treat SAHM's with disdain are just as guilt as those who disdain career women. My mother was a homemaker and she was incredible, I love that she chose to do that for us.<br /><br />However, I do disagree with a few of your other points, specifically the arguments that women are better in general, are more suited to nurturing and that women and men should be treated differently. So here it goes :)<br /><br />While I value my gender, I never liked it when people would tell me that women were better than men. For the large part, I believe it sends a message excusing bad behavior for men, and also really demeans men. I don't believe we should EVER praise one gender over another.<br /><br />In terms of being more nurturing I think that is obviously a maternal instinct that would arise after giving physical birth, I mean, it's biology. However, I'm not a baby person. While I like kids fine, I've never liked babies. Having children is also something I've seriously considered, not doing. Likewise, I've met other women who feel similarly. Again, I think telling this to men inhibits their abilities as fathers, men, strong and nurturing fathers are just as necessary as a strong and nurturing mother. I've also met some men who were way more nurturing than me and I think that there are some men out there who are more suited to being a SAHD than a woman would be. I think it just comes down to the individual.<br /><br />Lastly, in being treated differently. When a man opens a door for me, it's polite and I always appreciate it. However, if a man doesn't open a door for me, neither am I offended. It's a provocative thought to think that women might also open a door for a man to show respect for him (interesting idea...I may have to blog about this later).<br /><br />In regards to the story of the teacher who hit the girl, I don't think that it matters that she was a woman, I think it matters that they were his students. It was completely inappropriate for the teacher to hit either his female or his male students. I think the same goes out in the world. Hitting is bad. Neither gender should it. Now, granted I know men like to get in play fights and even duke it out when there is a problem. I've gotten in many play wrestling matches with men and even a few with my girlfriends. Now, biologically, men are bigger; their bodies produce more testosterone, they grow to a larger size and have more upper body strength, a man hitting a woman will usually inflict much more damage than a woman hitting a man. When a man is abusive towards a woman it is always to create a power relationship and to control another person, which is why it is so reprehensible. The fact that men may more easily dominate women because of their size is probably what makes it more common for domestic abuse to be committed against women.<br /><br />I hate personality tests...I think they're limited to the beautiful and unique people we are. People are people and everyone is different. That's the view I tend to take towards gender--everyone interacts with their gender in a different way and that's great for the individual, however, prescribing specific roles and characteristics often scrubs out the beautiful marks of personality and individuality that make us all different.<br /><br />Thanks for the post!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16595096866339139973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post-76040670524125610112011-10-26T12:53:05.299-07:002011-10-26T12:53:05.299-07:00I think maybe the biggest issue is respect. We can...I think maybe the biggest issue is respect. We can be all kinds of equal and still have no respect for the other gender. I have been a stay at home mom for over 3 years now, and I noticed a marked difference in the way I was spoken to, socialized with, and treated when I became a mother, by both men and women. The sad thing is, WOMEN don't respect other women who have chosen to embrace their natural roles. Somehow the whole world is convinced that the innate abilities and tendencies that women possess are worthless. I think we're pretty equal. Women can own land, vote, choose almost any career they want. What's lacking is respect for what every woman yearns to be: a child-bearer, a mother, a homemaker.Robin Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09043263442165502232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post-25053634664195548752011-09-14T22:24:00.848-07:002011-09-14T22:24:00.848-07:00Men and women are equal, not the same. I think the...Men and women are equal, not the same. I think the worlds view of gender equality is making women the same as men (never the other way around). when we can accept the different strengths men and women have, we'll see that we are equal.Lisa Martineauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11691380162267452544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-247474793908460606.post-28337600641782613242011-09-14T17:55:49.002-07:002011-09-14T17:55:49.002-07:00Love this. Amen.Love this. Amen.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06484722071021294422noreply@blogger.com